Raise your hand if you've felt it...if you've felt this feeling of doing something wrong even when you thought your steps were right?
It's interesting to see how social media has enhanced this idea. As moms, we are a community right? Yet we judge, we poke and some even believe that how they mom should be how others mom. NO.
My oldest is six and my youngest is almost two. I still haven't got the mom thing down. I struggle some days wondering if what I'm doing is enough. I wake up, go to work, pick the girls up, cook, play and then put them to bed. By then, I'd rather go to sleep than have me time. I want more than just the same routine but I also know that I have to do what works for us.
Mom guilt creates anxiety. It creates depression. And any mom that goes through this I pray that you're okay. That you find a support system that stands strong when you can't be. When Harper was born I felt guilty because I wasn't breastfeeding. I didn't get my milk. On top of that, I knew I would soon be at work so I wanted the transition to be easy for myself and my mom. People including those inside the hospital made me feel guilty because this is what society pushed, breastfeeding is what society expected. I wasn't following the rules. But after awhile I would tell myself that the most important thing was that my child was healthy and thriving. And she was. From then on I accepted the fact that I couldn't breastfeed but I was no less of a mom than one that could.
I'm going to tell you something. YOU'RE MORE THAN ENOUGH. It's okay to be tired, to work, to stay at home, to breastfeed, to formula feed, to work out, to not work out and so on. We are not the same but what we do have in common is that our kids give us the ability to be more than we were yesterday.
Mom guilt shouldn't be a thing but it is. We need to uplift one another instead of tearing each other down. Here's a thing, mom happy. Why are you mom happy? I'm mom happy because everyday I am learning to grow. Everyday I am finding myself and everyday I am believing that my kids will do wonders someday.